You Shouldn’t Do What You Should Do

The most important thing to do is what you know in your gut is right.

Part of living in a busy society is that we are constantly bombarded with Shoulds.

You should eat better. You should exercise. You should be nice. You should try harder. You should make more money. You should hurry up. You should have the answers.


There is only one thing that you should do. You should do what feels right to you.

The problem with doing what someone else tells you to is that they don’t know where you are now. They can’t hear your intuition. They have to use words, and even a slight difference in interpretation could throw a wrench in the whole thing.

For example:

Bob says, “You should eat dinner,” as he puts some macaroni in the pan on the stove.

Fran thinks, “But I want to eat what feels right, like Chia seeds wrapped in parsley…”

Even though Bob and Fran both want to eat dinner, they are in conflict over what that dinner will be. It’s subtle, implied, so they probably don’t even realize it, and it will take them a while just to figure out that it will be okay if they both eat what they are hungry for.

Every Should is a detour you have to chase off before you can do what feels right. They don’t permanently hold you back, but it is much more direct just to encourage yourself and others to do what feels right.

Even if what feels right is not the best course of action, exploring it is often what is necessary to get it out of the way so that you are free to consider other possibilities.

The trick is in teaching yourself to feel right about the activities that lead to the life you want.

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