Something worth defining a bit better, since we are constantly doing it.
-too often a social judgment.
As in “I will help you to be thin and beautiful, like this airbrushed magazine photo!” instead of acknowledging how beautiful you already are.
-too often a dispensation.
As in, “I am brilliant and my life is perfect, so I am well qualified to tell you, oh lowly worm, how to live properly.”
-too often self-righteously blind.
As in, “I know you said you need help finding a job, but I will help you Change who you are, so you are perfect and everyone likes you, like me!”
-best when sensitive and responsive.
As in… (silently listening and nodding as you talk, and actually hearing what you mean).
-best between equals.
As in, “I use this when that happens to me.”
-best when it helps you help yourself.
As in, “Give a man a fish and feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime.”
-good for it’s own sake.
As in what brings you joy, peace, and fulfillment right now.
As in, “Take it however you will, it’s yours.”
-a gift from the universe.
As in open up and let go, because it passes through you, and it is not about you.