The Tree Happiness Grows On

Happiness is like the fruit that falls from the tree. Sweet, full of joy and seeds of new beginnings, But the tree has much deeper, tougher roots. Happiness has been my goal in life. It’s a good one. But like fruit, happiness is part of the cycle of the hard work of growing things. The […]

No-Mind: How to Actually Be Yourself

The great thing about commitment is that it makes it really clear to you what you should think about. I committed to writing about how to be yourself, and so I started thinking clearly for once about what it means to be yourself. Here’s How to Be Yourself Don’t try. That’s it. This is one […]

Stillness is…

Misleading, because you hold still, but you breathe, the air moves, the world hums with energy. Magic, because it rushes through you like a river swollen with melt water in spring, bearing all the possibilities of the present moment. Liberating, because all the ideas that hold you back dissolve and mean nothing. Hidden, because it […]

Gratitude Makes Distance, Praise Makes Fluff, Love Makes Possibility

Gratitude creates distance. “I should be grateful to you for that thing that you did that you didn’t have to do.” It reminds us of decisions that could have been made differently, and the past and the future, and all the ways that things don’t work out. It is a gift you give someone else […]

The Chef’s Secret for a Good Life

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Faust If there is one reason to be yourself, it is to live a good life. Depending on who you are, that might mean happiness, or wisdom, or love, or wealth, or health, or success. But first you must trust […]