Many Thanks, Failure

From my last failure, here’s what I learned. Be honest about failing because talking about it will give you the insights you need to move forward. Don’t imitate successful people who tell you what you need to be like them. Go with your gut instinct and the first little voice in your head that you […]

The Benefits of Failure

Failure hurts. Yes. But it is also a sign that you are taking the risks required to learn. To progress. To really live. Failure is far more educational than success. It teaches you about what doesn’t work, what you don’t want, and how people behave when life is imperfect. And life is usually imperfect. A […]

The Art of Change

Once upon a time, we lived in a world where change happened slowly. Sure, there were catastrophes, sudden disasters, miracles. But most things stayed the same. Fifty years ago, it made sense to think of yourself as changing into something. You could become a parent, an office worker, a manager, a home owner, an expert. […]

Measuring for Success

We set measurements for ourselves to see if we’ve been successful. And measurements are relative. A really good project from a beginner might be fatally flawed to a professional, yet be better than the work of most beginners. A book full of mistakes and half-considered ideas might be better than everything else on the topic. […]

Does It Hurt Enough Yet?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight as a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin There is a level of commitment that – once reached – requires you to say what you really think, dig for the best solutions you can make up, and […]

On Climbing To The Goal: Mountains Made of Sand

“…sometimes that mountain you’ve been climbing is just a grain of sand…” – Carrie Underwood, So Small The excuse we give ourselves for seeking goals is that they will add up. Each little milestone will add up as part of the great life goal. And that, we tell ourselves, is why the goal is so […]

Why Fire-Aim and Aim-Fire Both Miss the Target

Both ‘fire’ and ‘aim’ are necessary to hit the target. Yet when it comes to goals, there is a lot of debate as to which comes first. Shall I wait until my aim is perfect before I fire? Or shall I just shoot randomly and worry about what I’m shooting at later? It depends on […]

Is This The Perfect or Perfecting Section?

It’s an easy slip of the tongue. This is where the clean ones go, that is where the cleaning ones go. This is where the perfect ones go, that is where the perfecting ones go. Life is an accident of verbs. We thought we were supposed to be perfect. To have already attained greatness. It […]

Just Do the Damn Thing: A Logical Refutation

1. I can’t. You have fingers, legs, and you can move them. The computer is right here. You have the internet hooked up. The keyboard works (miraculously after being beaten mercilessly by an infant everyday). You are physically capable. You can. What more do you want? 2. I don’t know what to do. By this, […]

Put Down the Whip

In life, everyone has that one area where things aren’t easy for them. Strange disasters occur, they sabotage themselves, they experience irrational terror, obsess about things everyone else finds easy, and make decisions no one else can understand. For me, that area is my career. I have spent years trying to threaten, cajole, terrify, strategize, […]