The Heart Shouts “No!”

There’s this voice in my head, probably from the 1950s, who tells me that when you are Moving Forward and Making Progress, you don’t have time to think about emotions. It’s this guy’s fault that I keep going in the wrong direction. On the dark and rocky roads of life, your gut feelings are often […]

On Choosing A Path (to Happily Ever After)

It’s already chosen. That’s the tantalizing point I’m driving at. You chose it. You just didn’t realize it. If you look around you, you will see the evidence. You have been choosing your life all along. Scattered over your desk, filling your book shelves, stuffed in your drawers, sleeping in the other room. That’s your […]

I’m Afraid of You

“You don’t want to be like me, ‘Cause I know the world is afraid of me.” –Twiztid Those were the words that got me through high school, when I was pouring everything into being Normal, Smart, Pretty, Safe – everything that is supposed to define a girl. I was completely unsuccessful, because my soul was […]

7 Lesson on Life from Freecell

I have a freecell addiction. For your information, it is a solitaire like card game on the computer, not an illicit drug. I have a 98% win rate, of which I am proud. One of the nice things about not having time to do things you enjoy is that when you do manage to do […]

Happiness, Contrary to the Promise of TV

Feeding your soul is not an option. It’s like eating every day. You have to, whether you want to or not. If you don’t, you will get sick and cranky. Having a healthy, well fed soul is not particularly appealing to mass media. It’s like how fast food commercials assure you that happiness comes from […]

Dreams Found

There’s been a great culling of late. Several bloggers who I know and love have gone silent, their lives having risen up and reminded them of what they truly love. For many of us this is true. It’s what life does. We get all lost in the broiling, churning fervor to be something… Someone who […]

The Language of Guidance

I am a realization junkie. I love those moments of “getting it”. Or at least feeling like you get it, without really understanding, without really changing. I think truly growing from something often requires a lifetime of practice. The realization comes and goes, but the practice remains. Well, I’ve had a realization. And I’d like […]


I’ve been pruning. This is unusual for me – because of what my mother-in-law delicately calls compassion. I like trees. I love the shapes of leaves. It feels wrong to go chopping all the plants to bits, just because the laws of Landscaping demand that everything should fit into a neat, geometrically shaped box. I […]

Helping Others Is:

Something worth defining a bit better, since we are constantly doing it. -too often a social judgment. As in “I will help you to be thin and beautiful, like this airbrushed magazine photo!” instead of acknowledging how beautiful you already are. -too often a dispensation. As in, “I am brilliant and my life is perfect, […]

Appreciate Where You Are

We are pretty good at wanting desperately to be somewhere else, have something else. It’s human nature to constantly need something. The trouble is, if you spend your whole life wanting to be somewhere else, you will never notice and enjoy what you’ve got right now. Right now, I am on the floor, in view […]