5 Huge Barriers to Acting on Your Dreams & Practical Ways to Blow Them Up

Going out and doing what it takes to make the life you want a reality is freakishly hard sometimes. It just that acting on your dreams is too important to hide from.

Here are the five biggest problems I’ve been clobbered by and ways to bludgeon them back into the night.

To do the exercises, write things down. You may want to get a pen – or open a word file.

Now, into the mines!

In Need of Directions: Listen to the Universe

A goal worth trying this hard for should be something you love and believe in.

If you find yourself in need of a worthy goal, the best thing you can do is get some space, clarity, and perspective. Back off, quiet down, and clear up to hear the voices in your head and see the patterns of the universe.

There is a path out there for you, you just have to get out of your own way so that you can see it.

Try some of these methods to improve your universal-guidance reception.

  • Meditate, or just sit down, be quiet, and do nothing for two hours.
  • Go for a long hike with your dog.
  • Journal about it, or write as fast as you can without editing for 20 minutes.
  • Talk to yourself in the shower.
  • Clean the house and list some mental blocks to throw out with the trash.
  • Go look at something beautiful.
  • Get some rest.

The key is to quiet down and open up your mind.

Steps to the Goal: Mayan Pyramids & Wheelchair Ramps

If the steps you are trying to take are five feet high, and you need a grappling hook to get over them, they are probably too big.

Likewise, if you’ve been injured on the road of life before, it’s a little rough on yourself to drag your broken bones and bruises up each step. You need a gentle wheelchair ramp.

This means choosing good goals.

  • Distinguish between tasks which can be done in one sitting, and projects which take lots of tasks to do. Factor in things you have to learn and people you have to talk to. Be detailed in your task list so you don’t feel guilty for expecting too much of yourself.
  • Only set goals you can see the way to – the rest are dreams. $5000 next month is a dream unless you see where each chunk is coming from and how to secure it.
  • Set small, observable goals for a given time period, like “Make a deeper connection with 3 people per week.”
  • These are easier to keep track of. Set goals that are a little smaller than you think you can manage. Feel a little excited about how easy it will be to pull off. Succeeding and enjoying yourself will help to build momentum.

Anxiety: Finish the F***ing Story

When you are terrified of the future, because something bad might happen, ask yourself these questions.

  1. What’s the worst that could happen if you do it? Tell the story and continue it until after the worst is done and you are okay again – even if this requires going into the afterlife after the apocalypse, you will be okay again.
  2. What’s the worst that could happen if you don’t do it?
  3. What’s the minimum good that will certainly happen if you do it?
  4. What’s the biggest, craziest, world-changing good that could happen if you do it?

Uncertainty: Shoot Invisible People with Spray Paint

Uncertainty can paralyze you, as it has paralyzed others of your species for thousands of years. Sometimes this helps survival, but often these days, it leaves us stuck in lives we would rather change.

However, the best way to fight back when you are attacked by an invisible assailant is to find a way to make him more visible.

So here’s what to do.

  • List the biggest 3-5 goal-related things you are uncertain about.
  • Sit quietly for a minute to dispel panic and hear yourself think.
  • EITHER Write down a few ways to be less uncertain about each thing. Say what you need to learn, plan, or do to feel better about each item.
  • OR Conclude that the outcome is up to the universe, there is nothing you can do to control it, and let go of the worry.

Inertia: Call For Backup

Sometimes the best way to get yourself moving is to put peer pressure to work in your favor.

  • Announce what you are going to do publically, to as many people who you know and like as possible, in writing. This is a commitment to do it. It makes failure embarrassing.
  • Make your goal regular and specific so that you can track it.
  • Report your progress publically to people who care. Make sure you tell them you will be updating them so they know to expect you.
  • Ask for help. Humans are happiest when they can help others, and for that to happen the others have to ask for it. It could be a five minute favor. It could be life changing.

Steps to Change the World

The only way the world has ever changed is one person, one step at a time. Better to fail at something wonderful than to spend your life in insignificance, wondering what might have been. If not now, when?

“The time is now, the day is here!” – Les Miserables, One Day More

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