Archives for April 2013

Of Work and Love: In The Ancestral Mating Ground of Stupid Myths

In life, important goals and emotions are the ancestral mating ground for bull shit. This is why there are so many songs about falling in love, dating, and breaking up, and so few songs about what it is like to wake up next to someone who you have been married to for 30 years. Everyone […]

Fools Widsom

“And nobody wants to know him, they can see that he’s just a fool. And he never gives an answer. But the fool on the hill, sees the sun going down, and the eyes in his head, see the world spinning ‘round.” – The Fool On The Hill, The Beatles We are supposed to be […]

You Need Space to See

You can’t see your eyeball with your eyeball – medical emergencies aside. You will have to look in a mirror, and when you see the reflection of your eye staring back at you, that’s because there is space between your eye and the mirror. You need space to see. This is why the best solution […]

The Tree Happiness Grows On

Happiness is like the fruit that falls from the tree. Sweet, full of joy and seeds of new beginnings, But the tree has much deeper, tougher roots. Happiness has been my goal in life. It’s a good one. But like fruit, happiness is part of the cycle of the hard work of growing things. The […]

The Real Source of Mysterious Problems

The hardest thing to confront is the fear you don’t want to think you have. It shows up as a kind of strange malfunction, an avoidance, a misunderstanding. When they translated the Bible into Greek, the world they used for sin was hamartia. It is a term from archery, meaning to miss the mark. The […]

You Can’t Do It Alone

It seems like you should be able to think of something good in the privacy of your own mind, and make it, and share it. You use your mind for things all the time. You don’t tell people about everything you think. All kinds of great ideas have come to the world from people’s minds. […]

The Strength to Change Slowly

Bit by bit, day by day, things change. Blowing wind and dripping water can reshape mountains. The challenge is persisting. It will seem like failure is imminent at every step. It will seem like things are going backwards and nothing is working. Strength, in tarot cards, is a picture of a girl holding open the […]

Play: The Fountain of Productivity

I would like to tell you that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Except I only tried that once, and I didn’t catch any flies at all. So it’s not the most meaningful example. Instead, think of shopping with friends. Hiking in beautiful mountains. Swimming at the beach. Staying up late […]

You Can Do Better Than Retain Knowledge

Studies show that people retain 90% of the knowledge they teach others, and only 10% of the knowledge they gain from reading. That’s great if you want your brain to be an encyclopedia. I think it’s about more than that. Teaching is an act of transformation. Both the teacher and the student are transformed by […]

No-Mind: How to Actually Be Yourself

The great thing about commitment is that it makes it really clear to you what you should think about. I committed to writing about how to be yourself, and so I started thinking clearly for once about what it means to be yourself. Here’s How to Be Yourself Don’t try. That’s it. This is one […]